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You lose Yourself
In today's article, I have reproduced two statements that might resonate with anyone who has been through a narcissistic or controlling abusive relationship. The first article is about what you can lose and the second article is about how a man treats a woman....
Red Flags – What Type Of Man?
I started out in my last relationship as an independent businesswoman. Then I moved to Spain into what was meant to be our retirement home together. 2016 I sold out my UK business to start over with a different type of business. He was still working his business and...
Narcissistic Behaviours
Narcissistic abuse and behaviours appear in many forms. Cheating, leading a double life, manipulation, grooming, verbal abuse, anger outbursts, humiliation, belittling comments. Financial abuse, either they scroungers and get you into debt, or they use money as a...
The Spanish Retirement Dream.
A New Home In The Sun 2015 - 2016 So here I was in July of 2016, living in the beautiful countryside in a lovely house that we had furnished together, looking forward to retirement and at last being together. Eight years in a relationship with him, and for all of...
Emotional Energy Spiral
How Do We Dig Ourselves Out Of The Black Hole We Just Fell Into? During and after narcissistic abuse we can experience many of the negative emotional energies. Guilt, Shame, Fear, Anger, Despair losing the will to live. Slipping into harmful behaviours. When...
A bombshell is dropped. 27th August 2020
I’m collateral damage, unfortunately. A chapter from my first book. This is how the relationship ended just three days after he returned to Spain. After a weekend in which he had spent two days in a "Breakthrough Transformation Coaching" with an NLP, Hypnotherapist...
New Relationship – What Type Of Man?
After the death of my partner in December 2006, I was single and dated for a couple of years. Then in January 2009, I made a decision that I wanted another long-term relationship. What did I write down for my future? For a long time, and since I studied a lot of...
7 Signs of a Covert Narcissist
First, let's look at what are the traits of a Covert Narcissist.A covert or introverted narcissist lacks empathy and is hypersensitive to criticism but does not display the outward sense of self-importance found in overt narcissists. Covert narcissists lack confidence...
Not another high-conflict divorce or separation
It is not just another high-conflict divorce or separation. There are people who can ruin your life. They will destroy your reputation, your self-esteem or your career. High-conflict personalities will think nothing of leaving you emotionally and financially...
It’s Post Separation Legal Abuse Not Conflict.
Abusers torment their exes through the courts in a form of coercive control post-separation. Separating from a domestic abuser may not stop the abuse. Domestic abusers will vengefully harm and seek to punish their ex-spouse or partner, they want to win at all costs...
Is financial abuse a form of emotional abuse?
“Financial abuse is a form of family violence, and can be present with other forms of abuse, like physical or emotional abuse, but can also be present without these other behaviours.” WomenandMoney.org Hidden Abuse This type of abuse can take many forms, it can be a...
Broken. Written 2018 By Robin Mitchell Sandeen
Broken Emptiness, loneliness, utter despair, A husband who is selfish, unable to care. Words of formality, a tone of disgrace, The look of such evilness there is on his face. Condescending and nasty and Incredibly flip, Once there was love but the scale has now...
Negotiation vs Conflict October 2020
Negotiation vs Conflict October 2020 Phillips Email Communication - October 5th I received another long email from Phillip. His final words in the email told me he would go to court to have me evicted from his house, "Be in no doubt that under those circumstances, you...
6 Ways A Victim Is Abused Post Separation.
Any domestic abuse that occurs in a relationship is about power and control. Abusers terrorize and intimidate their targets they also confuse and devalue you as a person. They use the relationship for their own purpose. Don't make excuses for their bad...
How Victims of Domestic Abuse Are Failed.
Domestic abuse is a serious and all too common problem that affects millions of individuals and families around the world. It can take many forms, including physical, sexual, emotional, and financial abuse, and can leave victims feeling isolated, afraid, and with...