Domestic Abuse  / Gender Violence

by | Mar 4, 2024 | Toxic Relationships

Understanding Intimate Partner Abuse. Today I am writing about a subject that many people do not usually read about until the headlines in the media declare another senseless loss of life. So today I am covering the definitions of gender violence and domestic abuse...
Post-Separation Financial Abuse.

Post-Separation Financial Abuse.

by | Feb 12, 2024 | Toxic Relationships

Domestic Abuse Act 2021 in the UK Understanding and combating domestic abuse, the United Kingdom has taken a significant stride with the implementation of the Domestic Abuse Act 2021. Most people think of domestic abuse as physical violence. In fact section 76 Serious...
Why Was He Angry At Me?

Why Was He Angry At Me?

by | Jan 15, 2024 | Toxic Relationships

What did I do Wrong? This article is a chapter from my first self-published book. Post-Separation Abuse. Betrayal and Abandonment, What Type Of Man? Why was he angry is something I asked myself over and over again. I blamed myself for what happened. When I started...
Courts in Spain And My Experiences

Courts in Spain And My Experiences

by | Nov 22, 2023 | Toxic Relationships

Local Courts  The first level court “Juzgados de Primera” is the local court it can take 6 to 18 months for a case to be heard. In the first pretrial “Audencia Previa”  the barristers discuss points of law. It can take another 12 to 18 months for the main hearing...
Which Solicitor gave the best advice?

Which Solicitor gave the best advice?

by | Oct 23, 2023 | Toxic Relationships

Gaps in the Laws or misogynistic social beliefs, discrimination and a broken system. Seeking legal advice. The first piece of information that you might give to a woman who has disclosed to you that they have been threatened, intimidated, humiliated and verbally...
Post Separation Experiences.

Post Separation Experiences.

by | Sep 4, 2023 | Toxic Relationships

Story time. My Post Separation experiences After the ex-partner had informed me that he would pay for “transformational coaching” with the same ex-GP Hypnotherapist NLP practitioner that he had seen just the weekend before. I was questioning WHY? He had a...
You lose Yourself

You lose Yourself

by | Jul 31, 2023 | Toxic Relationships

In today’s article, I have reproduced two statements that might resonate with anyone who has been through a narcissistic or controlling abusive relationship. The first article is about what you can lose and the second article is about how a man treats a woman....
Red Flags – What Type Of Man?

Red Flags – What Type Of Man?

by | Jul 24, 2023 | Toxic Relationships

I started out in my last relationship as an independent businesswoman. Then I moved to Spain into what was meant to be our retirement home together. 2016 I sold out my UK business to start over with a different type of business. He was still working his business and...
Narcissistic Behaviours

Narcissistic Behaviours

by | Jul 10, 2023 | Toxic Relationships

Narcissistic abuse and behaviours appear in many forms. Cheating, leading a double life, manipulation, grooming, verbal abuse, anger outbursts, humiliation, belittling comments. Financial abuse, either they scroungers and get you into debt, or they use money as a...
The Spanish Retirement Dream.

The Spanish Retirement Dream.

by | Jun 29, 2023 | Toxic Relationships

A New Home In The Sun 2015 – 2016  So here I was in July of 2016, living in the beautiful countryside in a lovely house that we had furnished together, looking forward to retirement and at last being together. Eight years in a relationship with him, and for all...