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The Real Reasons Survivors Publish Their Stories.
Publishing your journey through domestic abuse, while incredibly difficult, often stems from a motivation that goes far beyond simply "telling a story." Here are some of the real reasons behind this courageous act: Breaking the Silence and Stigma: Domestic abuse...
Understanding Coercive Control: Insights from Two Expert Talks
Coercive Control I have chosen two videos in this article that cover “Coercive Control”. Both are TEDx talks. What is coercive control? Domestic abuse isn't always physical. Coercive control is an act or a pattern of acts of assault, threats, humiliation, intimidation...
Why Female Survivors of Domestic Abuse or Gender-Based Violence Have Difficulty in Stabilising Financial Security
Introduction Financial independence is one of the most critical yet most challenging milestones for women recovering from domestic abuse or gender-based violence. Beyond the physical and emotional scars, survivors often face long-lasting economic consequences that...
Inside the Mind of a Serial Cheater
Introduction.
As a woman who saw the devastation of a broken family home as a child, I can tell you that the impact of infidelity goes further than the spouse who discovers the affair. Serial cheating is different from a one-time affair. In this article, I want to explore the psychological traits of serial cheaters. Look at the common justifications they use to tell themselves they are entitled. The profound emotional toll on the betrayed partner, and also from my own lived experience. Is a serial cheater incapable of loyalty, or are they trapped in a cycle they don’t understand?
What does betrayal do to a person?
No matter how strong we are, betrayal hurts; the effects of betrayal can include shock, loss and grief, damaged self-esteem, and anger.
Are You Screwed ? Is Your Relationship Dragging You Down?
Relationships are supposed to build you up, be super supportive, and make you a better person. So it can really, suck when you realize your relationship is dragging you down. It can also really take you by surprise. Healthy, happy relationships are where both partners...
Separating from a Domestic Abuser May Not Stop the Abuse
Abuse Doesn’t End With Separation Leaving an abusive relationship is often seen as the final step to freedom, but for many survivors, the abuse doesn’t end with separation. In fact, it can escalate, taking on new and insidious forms that continue to inflict emotional,...
Key Legal Issues I Should Be Able to Address.
Unfortunately, The Barriers To Justice Are Huge. Key Legal Issues 1. Violation of Due Process & Constitutional Rights – The fact that I was interviewed without legal representation is a direct violation of Spanish constitutional law. Additionally, the criminal...
What are the red flags of a toxic partner?
Red Flags: How to Recognize the Warning Signs Before It’s Too Late Unveiling the Narcissistic Cycle of Abuse Introduction: In the complex dynamic of relationships, it’s crucial to pay attention to your intuitive feelings and emotions and be aware of potential red...
The Links Between Psychological and Economic Abuse.
Today, I want to highlight my lived experience of psychological and economic Abuse. against the Evaluation Report of GREVIO,
The Trauma of Being Falsely Accused
My Journey Through False Allegations and Post-Separation Abuse Being falsely accused can shatter a person’s sense of self, creating waves of emotional, mental, and even physical trauma that linger for years. I know this all too well. As an author who dared to share...
Systemic Failures in the Justice System in Spain.
So today, my thoughts were:- Failures in the Justice System. Legal intimidation and litigation abuses post-separation. The unlevel playing field and power imbalances. Are these power imbalances an indication of something more sinister going on? A high-conflict...
Learning New Skills – My daughter helps me out.
This is a chapter from Deceptions Illussions Embroidered With Truth. My daughter helps me out. After my attempts to negotiate with the mediation company had failed, I was juggling my finances and looking for opportunities to start earning again. I was watching videos...
Moving The Goalposts Again
This is a chapter from my next book. I am continuing the story of my post-separation experience to document the situation. Please note that all names have been changed. The ex had been moving the goalposts so many times already. I felt like a puppet on a string. He...
Silencing Survivors Through Defamation Lawsuits
Abusive Litigations In recent years, abusive litigation has become a common tool used by powerful individuals to silence those who dare to speak out on matters of public concern, particularly in cases involving abuse, sexual violence, and defamation. This tactic is...