A free self-defence guide for women to read before you share a home, merge your money or sign anything.
Economic abuse and coercive control rarely start overnight. They begin quietly, wrapped in “romance,” “trust” or “saving money together.”
By the time a relationship turns, it can be too late to protect yourself. Some women face sudden homelessness, debt in their name, or a legal system that calls it a “civil matter.”
This short guide gives you ten non-negotiables to put in place while you still have choices.
Inside the guide
- Why you should never merge 100% of your money, and how to build a private emergency exit fund
- How to get every contribution in writing, so a promise becomes proof
- Why you need your own legal advice, especially if you’re moving abroad
- The utilities, credit and liability traps that are easy to miss
- How to keep your documents safe where a partner can’t reach them
- The red flags to watch for, and the warning signs authorities often dismiss
Who it’s for
- You’re thinking of moving in with a partner or getting married
- You’re moving to another country, or already live abroad
- You’ve lost money, a home or your footing in a past relationship and never want that again
- You want to protect a daughter, sister or friend
About the author
Loren Keeling is a survivor, advocate and author who writes about post-separation abuse, economic devastation and institutional bias. This is the guide she wishes she’d had.
