‘Did my childhood have anything to do with me attracting relationships with elements of narcissistic abuse?
Have you ever asked yourself this question?
After three main long term relationships, non of which were really “healthy” or “loving”. I am on a “mission of discovery”.
I have only recently, in the last seven months, been learning about “narcissistic abuse” through videos, articles, books. The whole experience of my last relationship has opened my eyes to how I lost myself. How I could no longer be the person I wanted to be. How I kept a “Dear diary” and now when I look back at entries in 2016 where I actually wrote that I thought his behaviour was like emotional abuse and bullying behaviour. I have to shake my head and say to myself YES! I ignored all the red flags. I made excuses, I should have been stronger, I should have set boundaries, I should have stood up for myself.
Today I am sharing an article from the blog Tiny Buddha.
Written by Dr Sarah Davies. Her article explains more about how the cycle of narcissistic abuse works.
Dr. Sarah Davies is a Chartered Counselling Psychologist and Trauma Therapist based in London, UK. She is the author of Never Again – Moving on from Narcissistic Abuse and Other Toxic Relationships. Available from Troubador, a practical self-help guide for recovery to narcissistic abuse and toxic relationships.
Her article that I have shared here, uses elements of how I have started my healing journey. How in 2018 I forgave my now ex-partner when he confessed to having another woman in his life when he was working away in the UK. Unfortunately, I was never enough. I never could be enough, he always wanted more. Read my article “Are you Screwed” to discover how the wrong type of person in a relationship can drag you down.
Read – Healing From The Trauma of Narcissistic Abuse by Sarah Davies
(Click the image below to read the article)
I am now in the process of writing my first book. The title of the book is “What Type Of Man?”
Why I am writing this book
This book is written for all the women who didn’t survive. Who was not able to get through the trauma and gave up on themselves and their future.
Domestic violence is a factor in up to one-quarter of female suicide attempts. Female victims of domestic violence have eight times the risk for suicide compared with the general population.
Criminal Justice Research.
An est. 74,808 women (E&W) attempted suicide due to #DomesticAbuse by a partner in the last year. Tweets by @we_are_nina UK.
This book is written for all the women who have been in or are still in a controlling or emotionally abusive relationship. For women who felt trapped and couldn’t find a way to leave.
Facts on why women stay.
This book is written to highlight the gap in the Laws. Between couples in marriage and couples who are cohabiting when the relationship fails and results in conflict or post-separation abuse.
Facts on numbers cohabiting.
The number of cohabiting couple families continues to grow faster than married couples and lone-parent families. An increase of 25.8% over the decade 2008 to 2018. ONS Data